By Angela Ebron


All you need is love? Lennon and McCartney may have thought so, but women know better. Ask any of us and we'll readily admit that wedded bliss isn't always so blissful. That's just one of the secrets more than 35,000 women revealed when AOL Living and Woman's Day teamed up to find out what really goes on behind closed doors. Here's a peek at the results.


How would you describe your marriage?
Content 32%
Happy 27%
Unhappy 22%
Boring 14%
Exciting 5%

What's the main reason your marriage is successful?
We're best friends 33%
I wouldn't call our marriage successful 27%
We know how to compromise 22%
We communicate well 14%
We have a great sex life 4%

How's your sex life?
What sex life? 36%
Good and satisfying 19%
Pleasant enough 18%
Dull 16%
Amazing 10%

Wow! More than half of you are bored in bed or can't even remember the last time you got intimate? No wonder an overwhelming 79% of you want to have sex more often!

What first attracted you to your husband?
His personality 48%
His looks 31%
His sense of humor 17%
His money 4%

What attracts you to him most now?
His personality 52%
His sense of humor 21%
His money 18%
His looks 9%

For Better or Worse
Although a whopping 72% of you have considered leaving your husband at some point, and more than half of you (57%) sometimes regret marrying him, you're still in it for the long haul: 71% of you expect to be married to your spouse for the rest of your life.

How often do you and your husband have date night?
Date night? What's that? 41%
Once a week 21%
Once every few months 20%
Once a month 17%

The Fairy Tale Fantasy
We can't get enough of those "boy meets girl and the rest is history" stories in the movies, but based on what the majority of you told us, destiny and fate don't play much of a role in real-life love.

Is your husband your soul mate?
52% of you say no.

Your Top 5 Pet Peeves:

"I really wish my husband would…"
Spend more time with me 30%
Make more money 27%
Help around the house 26%
Hit the gym 12%
Put the toilet seat down 5%

How often does your husband say "I love you"?
Every day 44%
Hardly ever 23%
Fairly often 17%
Occasionally 16%

What do the two of you argue about most?
Money 35%
Household chores 20%
Sex 18%
The kids 17%
Work 10%

Should divorces be harder to get?
No 54%
Yes 46%

Do you consider flirting cheating?
No 60%
Yes 40%

Do you trust your husband?
Yes 66%
No 34%

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